The Mating Rating
- 7 Factors measuring Love Relationship Potential
The "Mating Rating" - Your Romantic Relationship Potential with a Partner
At the end of the Cupid Compatibility Analysis is a section called The Mating Rating which lists seven separate Factors and a "rating" from 1% to 99% for each Factor. These Factors are labelled:
The ratings for each are meant to serve as an indication of the degree to which each Factor is likely to be expressed in the relationship. These are "probabilities", not predictions - for YOU are always in charge of choosing how you act and react in your relationships. Typical scores for individual Factors are discussed below.
What Are Typical Scores?
The scores have been weighted to produce an "average" score of about 70% to 73% in each of the seven Factors, except Difficulty (DI), for which the "average" would be about 50%.
Please keep in mind that it is difficult to determine what is "average" in a human relationship! I have weighted the scoring for each Factor so that when one person is matched against a group of about 500 persons chosen at random, the "average" score will be 70-73%. For this "average" to be significant in your own case, that one person would have to be you!
Your average score with 500 different people may be higher or lower than 70% - and if the group contained only 10 to 100 people you had actually been attracted to before, it would likely be higher since you would normally only choose partners you felt were compatible to some degree.
Here is why some people's Mating Rating scores may be higher with a wider range of potential partners...
Some people are born with horoscope charts which contain more "easy" aspects (certain angles between planets which indicate a naturally easy or "good" match) than "difficult" aspects, and when comparing such a chart to other persons' birth charts there is thus a greater probability that more "easy" aspects will be found between those charts. This also means that they will likely see higher absolute "scores" in their Mating Rating with the potential partners they have chosen to rate by a Compatibility Analysis. In other words, they are more likely to score higher than the general "average" scores mentioned above than are people whose birth chart contains more "difficult" aspects.
You have probably noticed that some people just seem to be able to "get along" with a lot of people, and some people just seem to appear "attractive" to many people. While physical appearance and personal style may contribute to this, it is also likely that they have a birth chart with quite a few more of those "easy" aspects than the average person.
In Astrology, the term "Planet" also includes the Sun and Moon (and often the Ascendant) just for convenience in referring to them all with one word. I put a capital P on it to show this refers to "Sun and Moon and planets", not just the actual planets. I don't want to confuse you with too much astrological detail, but here is what happens when a Planet in your birth chart makes an "easy" aspect to a Planet in your partner's birth chart which is in an easy aspect to another Planet in his or her own chart. That same Planet will automatically make another "easy" aspect to the other Planet involved in that aspect because they were already aligned at an "easy" angle in your partner's chart - and will thus earn a higher "score" in the Mating Rating.
Thus, the more "easy" aspects a person has in their birth chart, the greater the chance that any Planet in a partner's chart which makes an "easy" aspect to one of their Planets will also make a second "easy" aspect to their second Planet in the aspect. It's a bit like getting "bonus" points because you have so many "easy" aspects. I didn't make it that way - it's just a natural phenomena which occurs when comparing birth charts!
It is fairly rare to have what is called a "grand trine" aspect in one's birth chart, but this triple aspect between three Planets that are all at 120-degrees to the other two is a very "easy" aspect - and any partner's Planet that makes an "easy" aspect to one of those three Planets will automatically be making two more "easy" aspects to the other two Planets! Can you see how a person with a "grand trine" in their chart might get much higher Mating Rating "scores" with more people? Oh, those lucky ducks! They will get along well with more people than the rest of us. (But a "grand trine" is also like a two-edged sword, for people who have it too easy often do not make as much effort at personal growth or accomplishing things in life as those of us who don't have it so "easy".)
When there is a "difficult" aspect from your Planet to one of your partner's Planets which in their own birth chart forms a "difficult" aspect to another Planet, then your Planet will likely make a second "difficult" aspect to that other Planet (and the composite scores will be lowered even more, and the DIfficulty Factor will increase even more). But because we use "orbs" of influence in astrology (which means your Planet will not always form that second aspect involving a given Planet in your partner's chart), this will not happen in every case. But it is more "likely" to happen.
Here is a special case. I'll use the Sun and Moon in the example because they are VERY important in determining compatibility; but what is described here is true for this same 90-degree "difficult" aspect between ANY two Planets. If your own birth chart has the Sun at an exact 90-degree angle to the Moon (a "square", which is the most "difficult" aspect) then when ANY partner's Sun makes a 90-degree angle to your Moon, it must ALSO be making either a 180-degree angle (an "opposition" aspect) to your Sun OR a 0-degree angle (a "conjunction") with your Sun.
That Sun/Moon square would be a somewhat "difficult" aspect in Compatibility Analysis, but the Sun/Sun conjunction would a very "easy" aspect. If it were a Sun/Sun opposition instead, it would be somewhat "difficult" (but very attracting too). So the "scoring" could be lowered by the "difficult" Sun/Moon aspect, but that second aspect could either automatically increase or lower the score. Yes, it does get complicated! That's why I wrote a computer program to keep score of all the complexities involved in comparing two birth charts! It would take hours and hours to do by hand, and errors or omissions could easily be made when doing such complex calculations.
One client who has ordered many Compatibility Analysis readings from me has scored in the high 90s with many of the potential partners; while other people might only score in the 80s with the partner they are dating or intend to marry. You might think this client is lucky to have met so many highly-compatible candidates for marriage. It's true that such high scores indicate they would be highly compatible - but it's also true that this client has a birth chart which makes it easy to attract many people and get along well with many people. And that may be what is making it difficult for them to decide on the best one, when there are so many good ones to choose from!
Thus I would suggest you use the numerical scores to compare the strength of one Factor relative to the other Factors in a particular relationship, and not use these numbers to compare your relationship to the relationships of other couples.
But you can effectively use your own Mating Rating scores to compare the relationships YOU form with various partners (past, present, and future) to see which of your relationships indicate the highest potential, and which Factors are stronger or weaker in those relationships.
But don't go by the numbers alone - always read and carefully consider the text which describes and explains the relationship in your Compatibility Analysis reports, then judge for yourself which relationship seems to offer the greater chance of happiness for you.
The numerical scores in the Mating Rating are only relevant to YOUR relationships with various partners.
You might only score in the low 80s with the most desirable partner you have met, but that does not mean your relationship is not as "good" as some other couples who score in the 90s with each other. It all depends on your individual birth charts. While higher scores are generally a good thing, what matters is how highly you score with YOUR various potential partners, so you can see which have the greatest potential for compatibility WITH YOU.
If you were formerly married and then divorced, and are now evaluating a new relationship, it may be informative to order a Compatibility Analysis and Mating Rating on your former mate so that you have a basis for comparison - since you will be quite familiar with how that marriage relationship worked out, and what the degrees of compatibility and conflict actually were. In the two relationships, the constant factor is YOU. (Some clients have been surprised, when reading the text of the Compatibility Analysis for both a former and current partner, at how many similarities there are in how they relate and react to both partners.)
Note that when comparing Mating Rating scores with two partners, you must have provided accurate birth times for BOTH partners in order for the comparison to be valid. Otherwise, the partner whose birth time was known will usually score higher - simply because using their birth time in the calculations allows more astrological factors to be added into the scoring. (When the birth time is unknown, certain factors have to be ignored and will not contribute to the total score for each Factor.)
Also note that the scores cannot go below 10% or higher than 99% because the program has been set this way. At the low end, there is not much point in discussing the difference between, say, 1% and 9%. A score of 10% indicates the strength of that Factor is so low that you will not likely be aware of it.
Such a low score is quite rare, except in the case of the Difficulty Factor. But do not assume that a DI Factor of 10% means there are NO "difficulties" - for the scores are a composite of both positive and negative aspects. It just means that the positive factors far outweigh the negative factors - not that there are NO negative factors at all.
The Difficulty Factor
A DI Factor of 10% or 20% might indicate that a lot of positive factors were decreasing the score and keeping the negative factors from driving the score even higher. It does not mean there aren't any negative factors, only that they are outweighed by many positive factors or a few strongly-weighted positive factors. In another case, where there actually aren't many negative factors, a DI Factor of 10% might indicate that there are not that many positive factors either - otherwise, the score would be pushed up somewhat by the positive factors. This may mean that the person simply does not trigger any stressful reactions in you.
Thus a very low DI score can mean that either they are very compatible with you, or that they don't have much effect on you at all (like a person you pass on the street and don't even notice). Do keep in mind that, unlike the other Factors, the LOWER the DI score, the better, since it is a measure of the "Difficulty" in relating as well as the "Differences" which can work against compatibility.
With compatible couples a Difficulty Factor score of 50%, even up to 60%, is typical. This should not be a cause for concern unless it gets above 60%. Remember that differences are often what attract us to another person, even though they may require that we learn to accept these differences and to make compromises which avoid the potential conflicts. Dealing with these challenges is what contributes to our emotional and spiritual growth - and stimulates more interest and excitement in the relationship. A relationship which is "too easy" would be boring, and would not stimulate us to learn and grow.
Some people prefer "comfort" over "excitement", and are not willing to trade passion for peace, or conflict for comfort. Others prefer the "passion", and are not willing to trade excitement for comfort. For them, some conflict is acceptable, perhaps even desired now and then.
The Mating Rating scores don't make a judgment here; they only serve to indicate the potential for comfort versus conflict. Conflict adds to the excitement and can stimulate personal growth, but at the cost of comfort and at the risk of causing an eventual break-up. Comfort can contribute to contentment, but at the cost of excitement and passion - and can lead to boredom and stagnation. It's your choice.
For example, if your Sun or Moon or Venus is in the sign of Taurus, you are more likely than most to choose "comfort". If these are in the sign of Aries, you are more likely than most to choose "excitement" and "passion" - and even enjoy a little "conflict" now and then.
A high DI Factor score of 80% or more will likely indicate some fairly obvious and annoying tensions or conflicts in your relationship with this person. But sometimes you feel there is something you don't like about the person, without having a logical explanation as to why. The difficulties in the relationship that aren't apparent at the outset may become more obvious later on. Take that high DI Factor as a warning that this could occur.
When the DI Factor is high, it indicates that there are more negative aspects to the relationship than positive aspects, which means the relationship will likely involve more differences, discomfort, stress, and conflict than similarities, comfort, harmony, and compatibility. There will be more elements which tend to drive you apart than to draw you together; and because things could get too uncomfortable to tolerate, the potential for a lasting relationship is much lower when the DI Factor is too high.
When the DI Factor is high, and the Infatuation and/or Physical Factors are also high, this could indicate a kind of "love/hate" relationship, with alternating periods of closeness and conflict, or attraction and repulsion. The real-life romances of famous actors Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, or Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, could serve as examples of this type of passionate but stormy relationship.
The Karma Factor
A typical score for the Karma Factor is about 70%. A high score would be above 80%. A score above 90% is not often seen. It might indicate a "soul mate" - but be aware that "soul mates" are as likely to be drawn together again to work out some past conflicts, as to be drawn together because they were lovers in a past life. Your "souls" are attracted to one another again for either purpose, so your "soul mate" might be a former "enemy", or a parent you had conflicts with in a past incarnation. Your goal in this lifetime is to learn to love unconditionally, or for one to forgive the other for past actions. I prefer to use the term "twin souls" to describe former lovers who find each other again in this lifetime because of the deep unconditional love they felt for each other in past lifetimes.
The KA Factor is a special case, for it is not calculated from positive and negative factors, but is simply the sum of several astrological factors which can indicate a karmic relationship. When there are many factors, or a few important factors, the score goes higher - and indicates a higher probability that there is some kind of karmic attraction drawing you together, for better or worse.
Whether you have a low or high KA Factor will not in itself affect your compatibility. You can have a great relationship even if the Karma Factor is very low. But if it is high, it might help keep you bound together when conflicts are pushing you apart. You are not likely to realize WHY you feel you need to stay connected to this partner, but it may be that you have a kind of "karmic attraction" to them which keeps drawing you into the relationship, for better or worse. It may seem like a yearning to be with them always - or it could seem like a compulsion to stay with them, in spite of all the logical reasons to leave.
Karma is a kind of "unfinished business" from past lives, usually some "lessons unlearned" which your soul needs to learn in this lifetime by facing similar situations and making better choices than before. Often they involve certain other souls you have treated in certain ways, and you both need to come together again in new bodies to play out the old scenario again and see if you can choose a better way of dealing with it. One might need to make amends, and the other to forgive. In the end, we all need to forgive ourselves too, and not carry around guilts and self-judgements.
You can be drawn together by karma which was created by some unloving acts, or you can be drawn together again by the love you shared in one or more past lives - and maybe by a combination of both. The KA Factor does not indicate "good" or "bad" karma, only the probability that there IS a karmic attraction. That "attraction" is not necessarily a romantic one; it could be more like a person with an obligation being attracted to another person who can help relieve them of that obligation. It could even be a person who is mysteriously drawn to another person who actually did them harm in a past life, so that they can learn to "love your enemies" and "forgive them their transgressions". In one form or another, it's always about learning to love one another unconditionally and see every soul as "innocent". And it may require several lifetimes to learn that lesson.
If your Compatibility Analysis shows a high Difficulty Factor and ALSO a high Karma Factor, I would tend to suspect that there is some "bad" karma which needs to be corrected. In that case, it may be wise to stay in the relationship until you work out your karma, or you will just have to do it all over again in the next lifetime - or you may end up having to learn your lesson with another person in your next relationship, and go through all the same steps to set up the situations you need for that lesson - some which may not be pleasant. It's always your choice to make, but you have to live with the consequences of your choices.
If your Compatibility Analysis shows a low DI Factor and the scores for other Factors such as Infatuation or Friendship or Longevity/Loyalty are high, then a high Karma Factor might indicate an old romantic love or a strong former friendship (platonic love) being renewed in this lifetime. In such a case, you may feel an unexplained sense of recognition when you first meet each other - as if you have "known each other before". You might feel that you are "destined" to be together.
It's easy to imagine this romantic idea of "being drawn by Fate" when you are infatuated by someone who is physically attractive to you, but when you seem strongly attracted to someone who is not even the "type" you would usually be attracted to, then it's more likely a real "karmic attraction".
The TIME of birth is important in the scoring of this Karma Factor. The Ascendant is very important as an indicator of karma, especially when it makes certain angles to the Ascendant of the other person. But the position of the Ascendant point for a person cannot be calculated without their hour and minute of birth being known (since it moves one degree every four minutes). If the Ascendant point is not known, it will have to be ignored, and then it cannot contribute to increasing the score for the KA Factor. Then the Karma Factor will not likely be as high when one of the partner's birth time is unknown, and even less so if both birth times are unknown.
Be warned that if you chose to guess a birth time for yourself OR your partner, your Compatibility Analysis might mention some things in the text which would only be true if you actually were born at the hour and minute used to calculate your birth charts. Be especially skeptical of any paragraphs which include the term "nAsc." in the title line. This is an abbreviation for "natal Ascendant" - and it can change by 5 degrees in 20 minutes! If your birth time was incorrect by 20 minutes, that nAsc. paragraph might not even appear in a reading which used your true birth time, and some other paragraph(s) which involve the nAsc. might appear. This can change the scores in the Mating Rating, so if you are not sure of your birth times do not assume the scores will be any more accurate than the times you provided.
The Mating Rating ©1997 by Michael Star.
The Mating Rating is especially useful when you have ordered a Cupid Compatibility Analysis for more than one partner, such as a past partner and a potential partner, or two new potential partners. The rating scores can be used to compare the potential for each partner in a love relationship with YOU.
How to Interpret Your Mating Rating Scores
Please be aware that the score for each Factor (except Karma) is a composite of both positive and negative factors. You may actually have a higher potential than the raw score indicates, but there may be negative influences which will make this less likely to achieve.
The scores are meant to reflect the likely potential at the start of the relationship - even if you have not yet met face-to-face!
So even when a particular Factor's score is only in the "average" range (70-75%) it may be due to negative factors driving down a much higher positive potential that might be achieved if the two partners can learn to deal with some or all of those negative factors.
As a "rule of thumb", when the Difficulty Factor is high (say, above 60%) then that positive "potential" is likely greater than the scores for all the other Factors are indicating (except Karma, which is calculated differently) - since the relatively large number of negative factors would have reduced the otherwise higher score for the positive factors.
It is common for couples to experience difficulties in adjusting to each other at first, but when they are willing to make compromises and to learn to accept the differences in their basic natures, then the relationship becomes more comfortable and more satisfying.
In other words, the "potential" for happiness increases with their ability to love each other unconditionally - without "expecting" the other to be exactly what they want them to be, and just "accepting" them as they are.
So what the Mating Rating scores are really "saying" is:
"If you are willing to work out your differences, then your potential for happiness is higher than the scores may be indicating.
It's just more difficult to achieve than if the scores were already quite high (such as 90% or more).
Some couples do score above 90% in many of the Factors, and a few have scored 99% on some - but not on the Difficulty Factor! That 99% does not mean "perfect" - it is just an arbitrary assignment of the highest possible two-digit percentage number to the highest observed score in extensive testing of the rating system.
But if you don't make any effort, or aren't aware you need to work on the relationship, then the scores are really saying:
"This is probably the level you will achieve when you do nothing to change it - when you are not willing or able to make a conscious choice to make compromises and to fully love each other unconditionally."
In other words, that's where you are at the start, and that's about where you will remain unless you choose to make an effort to reach your highest potential together.
When a Birth Time is Unknown
Keep in mind that the scores in your Compatibility Analysis can change significantly when the birth time for either partner is unknown - or was estimated inaccurately. When either person's birth time is not known, the Mating Rating is unreliable because some of the astrological factors used to determine the ratings are sensitive to the time of birth. Without the exact hour and minute, it is impossible to know exactly where the Ascendant and Midheaven and Moon are positioned in that person's birth chart.
So any aspects to these three points will have to be ignored in the calculation of the Mating Rating, and this usually reduces the overall scores because aspects to the Moon and Ascendant are very significant in relationships, and thus are weighted heavily in the scoring. The scores can be even lower when BOTH partners have not been able to provide their hour and minute of birth, since there will now be TWO sets of Moon and Ascendant positions which cannot be determined or used in the scoring.
When a birth time is unknown, the numerical scores can only be useful in estimating one Factor's strength RELATIVE to the scores of the other Factors, to see which is a weaker or stronger Factor in the relationship. The actual numbers should NOT be compared to the scale of 1% to 99% used for couples having two known birth times, since it would be near impossible to achieve that 99% score when all the factors are not being included in the calculations. When the birth time for BOTH partners is unknown, the scores are likely even lower and even less reliable. Sorry, that's just the way it works. Without fully complete birth data (including hour and minute of birth), there cannot be a fully complete interpretation of the compatibility horoscope.
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